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Sad Puppy

“I know what your blog should be today,” The hubby said this to me two days ago.
I turned from the door and gave him a confused look. “What do you mean?”
“Sad Puppy.”
I still was confused.
“Babe, that is the fifth time you’ve checked the door in a half an hour.”
I gave him a shamefaced smile. It was the truth.  I had been waiting for my mom to come so we could begin our road trip. Since about ten minutes after I got home from work, I had been ready to go. That was at twelve-fifteenish. She was supposed to be at our house at one. It was one-twenty-four.
Who’s the late one now Mommy? (just kidding.)
My eagerness is fueled by my need to be close to my son. I hadn’t seen him since Sunday before I went to work. Five days and one mental breakdown later, I was practically itching with withdrawal. As the hubby put it I was a “mental case.” In retrospect I was a walking mental case. Tears were always moments away, irritation level extremely high, and restlessness even higher. 
The fact that he called me a ‘sad puppy’ is a major understatement for what I had become.
So why did I put myself though sending Darren six hours away to spend time with the hubby’s family?
At first I wasn’t sure. But after fielding a half million ‘How will you do it?” questions from co-works, family and friends, and a million “I could never do it,” and one “Enjoy it while you can,” (Cindalicous) statements, I know why.
Growing up, I was never given the chance to really get to know my adopted father’s family. As a result, I barely know them and rarely see them. Now that Darren is back home with us and hearing how much fun he had with his cousins and aunts and uncles, it makes me regret not knowing them better.
When the topic of Darren going to visit for awhile (without mommy or daddy along) came up, I was completely against it. I actually did what I could to put it off for a while. It’s not that I didn’t want him to go see family, but I didn’t know how I would cope without my little man. The more the hubby talked to me about it, it became very evident that the visiting would happen. I agreed it should happen.
 That doesn’t mean I had to like it.
It means that family is a high priority for me. 
It has been, and always will be. 
It means that if I have to send my son six hours away for a week, it will happen. But be prepared for me to be a basket case. Actually, be prepared to deal with the emotional, hormonal, irrational lost woman in your presence. AKA: a mother. 
The Hubby felt the same lost feelings, but he was manlier about it.
“I miss my Lingle,” (His pet name for Darren, don’t ask). That’s all I heard from him, that and random bursts of laughter as he was reminded about some cute thing his little man would do.
But he made the same decision as me. 
It means family is a high priority for him.
It has been, and always will be.
“So how, often do you think you’d be able to let Darren go visit?” This comes from the hubby tonight.
“Babe, I just got him back, I am not even thinking about the next time he’s going.” 
He just laughs. I think he’s just relieved he doesn’t have to deal with me being a mental case anymore.
(Leave a comment and let me know what you would do in this situation. Thanks for reading!)
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2 comments on “Sad Puppy

  1. vanita
    October 31, 2010

    oh boy, I use to get a taste of how you're feeling, every weekend. Since Damian was 3 months old, he's been spending Saturday nights at my Mother-in-laws house. Now, she's only 15 minutes away by car, so the first few times I should have been fine. I wasn't. Damian's crib resided in our bedroom and every time I passed the thing I'd get all teary. Hubby wanted to be all manly about it, but he did break down a few times and want to bring Damian home, not to mention he was calling and checking on Damian every hour. Made his mama nuts. Now that Damian's two and I know he has lots of fun there, I don't mind him going. I still miss him, but I don't get too sad about it. The added benefit is, now that he's two, I can enjoy a day of him wrecking grandma's house instead of mine. 😀

  2. TheSweetOne
    October 31, 2010

    Oh how I envy your courage. My son rarely ever stay away overnight and my daughter, now 2 1/2, never has. Blame it on health issues and bad sleeps but it doesn't change the fact that I'm so attached I'm willing to use the "they're my responsibility" line on everybody… sigh. Maybe when they go to college I'll finally get a night to myself…

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